About me
Hello there! I’m a 58-year-old non-binary trans person living in London, putting a little spark out into the universe in the hope of finding some kindred spirits, trans friends and allies.
Last year I made the big decision to leave a long-term day job and take my life in a different direction. These days I’m concentrating on being an artist, working mainly in pen and ink. My work involves lots of intricate cross-hatching and tends towards the esoteric. For me, making art is both a creative practice and a way of understanding the world - my own little sanctuary.
I like to present in a way that feels authentically me - age-appropriate, comfortable, and a little bit queer. Someone once described my look as “Geek Chic”, and I’m absolutely happy to claim that!
My world and small rituals
I’m autistic, deeply introspective, and quite sensitive to the world around me. My inner world is busy and my energy can be limited, so I find a lot of comfort in small, stabilising rituals. The weather, local sounds, a perfectly brewed cup of tea or coffee, and the quiet sanctuary of home aren’t small things to me - they’re my anchors.
I can be quite solitary and will happily spend days in my own creative bubble, so I sometimes find it difficult to connect with people initially. But once I warm up, I’m very open and articulate and love a good, deep conversation.
I value genuine emotional truth, curiosity, kindness and a deliberate softness. I’m not especially interested in performance or toxic positivity - I’d much rather have an honest conversation about the things that make life interesting, difficult, funny or beautiful.
When I’m not feeding my creative hunger, you can usually find me:
• Exploring London’s museums, galleries and free cultural spaces.
• Wandering through antique markets or flipping through auction catalogues looking at curiosities.
• Sitting in a café people-watching, with classical or jazz music in my headphones.
• Getting lost in books, comics and graphic novels — especially science fiction, fantasy and magical realism.
• Taking quiet walks through London’s green spaces and noticing the hidden history and little stories of the city.
I enjoy conversations that wander a little - art, books, history, music, strange objects, places we've lived, things we've noticed that day, and the occasional wonderfully obscure rabbit hole.
What I’m looking for
I’m at a point in my life where I’d really like to make some genuine new friendships.
I’m particularly interested in meeting fellow trans and queer people, as well as kind and open-minded allies. I’m not particularly concerned with how someone identifies, presents or looks. What matters much more to me is curiosity, kindness, honesty and a willingness to meet another person as they are.
I’d love to find people to get to know slowly - someone to share a smile and a deep conversation with, swap stories and observations, talk about books or art, or simply chat about the ordinary things that make up a life.
I'm quite happy with friendships that begin online and perhaps eventually become letters, postcards, or even the occasional cup of tea if we're local, whatever the universe may bring I'm open to. There’s no great expectation attached - I’d simply like to see who I might meet.
If any of this resonates with you, please do reach out. Let’s see where the conversation takes us.