53yo single TG hoping to be a formerly gender fluid M to F TG 16 months into second transition (HRT) looking for new friends to mutually support each other in this crazy time in America (especially for transgenders) to transition. I originally came out 100% in April, 2000 and have gone through many struggles related to losing both friends and family related to being honest about my identity. I am no stranger to many of life's struggles & loss and am willing to share these experiences freely in order to assist others. I have many years experience in various stages of transition living in very urban, rural, and suburban environments with people of all races and backgrounds and very much appreciate diversity, so please don't let me being a self described "euro-mutt" put you off! I have a Bachelor of Arts degree and some partially completed work toward a masters degree. I can hold a relatively intelligent conversation on many different topics I would like to think. My work history is very wide ranging in several fields, too numerous and varied to share here. Been a bit isolated having recently relocated to southern AZ from back east. Potential friends here can be from anywhere, although would be totally thrilled to find local people to meet, in person, if & when the appropriate time comes. Happen to love animals, outdoors, cycling, hiking, movies, music (especially various different genres of house music!!), girlie female fashion (total clothes & footwear whore!), makeup, hair, lashes, the beautiful Sonoran Desert & nearby mountains, amongst many other things. In the past decade, I must confess that I have become and enjoy being much more of a homebody, cooking at home and striving to become much more varied & talented in the culinary arena, within reason!! Tentatively preparing to go full-time in 2025, perhaps this coming summer or so. Been going out again fem sporadically part time as of late experimenting with all kinds of different styles which I have tons of fun and a little bit of apprehension with, at times. Exhilaration still some of the time, which can be great! Learning how to spontaneously anticipate/react to random people hopefully appropriately (sometimes inappropriately & unintentionally and occasionally even intentionally, GIGGLY!!) in countless different situations for me as a visibly out trans person, for now, is vital real world practice I feel like I definitely need in order to build confidence and am trying to get much better at. Would be great to one day again arrive at near full psychological/emotional passability and full physical passability for the very FIRST time someday which based on my first transition I see as totally realistic goals for me. Hoping to find a job with TG benefits in order to obtain much needed FFS surgery or just save up enough for it without a set time frame as of yet. Last transition I was entirely passable enough in every way except for my masculine facial appearance. Especially looking for other TG women who can relate to this extremely frustrating issue to hopefully mutually appreciate & assist each other positively emotionally cope and help get each other to where we are each in a better place over it! This is ultimately my single biggest factor holding me back from being in a much better place emotionally where I can finally get through a successful transition in order to accept myself FIRST, be accepted by others, and finally eventually start dating again as the REAL ME!! Chat about any & all transition issues, being transgender, and associated stumbling blocks are my primary area of interest & basis for chat & friendship at this point. When dating becomes a reality again, I prefer to take things slowly, in order to do & get things right for a possible eventual LTR. I am pansexual, am open to all on the gender spectrum from M to F, although I generally anticipate that my best matches lie mostly from female appearing & identifying TG women to genetically female women. My tendency at this time is identifying as a transbian/lesbian M to F. I'm 5'10", not petite, developing fem body, blue eyes, and love relatively short feminine hairstyles, dark burgundy, black, brown, & many shades of red. I am toned yet a little curvy but not overweight. Was a very fit and active person before hormones & took very good care of myself so am very happy to take that into my life as a woman. My personality is fem to quite girlie! See myself as a girlie girl, pretty tomboyish, girl nextdoor, yet uninhibited, not repressive personality. I appreciate friendships with all kinds of transpeople & CIS people, especially CIS women and perhaps an eventual mate. Right now, platonic friendships are much higher on my priority list. I am very open, honest, patient, a good listener, have a heart of gold, am very loyal in all my solid close personal relationships, and my guiding principle in terms of all interpersonal relationships is the golden rule, treating others only in the way I would want to be treated. I don't think I have ever put nearly so much in my profile here or anywhere else before, but again, it's another experiment on my part. Guess I'll see what happens? If you are a genuinely kind, honest, and forthcoming person, and anything I mentioned strikes a chord with you, feel free to say hi or DM me. My apologies for this being so verbose!! Thanks for taking the time to read & I look forward to hearing from you!! [ASTERISK]. BTW, if you are only here to troll, act predatorily or maliciously, misidentify or misrepresent yourself with intent to harm, play games, insult, hurt, try to use me or others, are a tranny chaser, looking for quick sex, or are willing to betray or twist the definition of the golden rule with me or others, and/or any combination of the afore mentioned, please stay away from me and those substantially similar to me on this supportive site which should remain a safe place for all who choose to participate here! I obviously cannot and do not pretend to speak for all who choose to connect here. Ignorance of me or trans issues in general is not wrong, unless it continues willfully despite my attempt to help clear it up with no result and/or with an eventual negative outcome listed above. Consider yourself warned. Do not mistake my openness for naivete or gullibility. I have been around the block more than a few times with so-called friends & dates who ultimately revealed themselves slowly or quickly to be toxic people. I am very empathic and can quickly sense those with ulterior motives and will not hesitate to make a quick exit before you can ever get close enough to me in my slow, steady, healthy, & gradual process in getting to know another person. So if you still want to waste my time & yours, just try me. In the past, I also never would have felt the need to include such a lengthy disclaimer as this, but in today's sometimes cruel world in which sociopathic behavior is sadly becoming more & more common, my intention to remain vigilant and safe is paramount when meeting new people, who at the beginning are by definition, strangers to me. I state this all without the intention of turning away healthy people or insulting anyone who desires healthy chat about TG issues in pursuit of helping each other! Cheers! Becky

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